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Tou Qi, the 49th Day, the 100th Day and the First Anniversary: How Chinese Families Mark the Mourning Days<\/h1>\n
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After a funeral, one of the questions families ask most is which days come next. In short, many Chinese families hold prayers every seven days after a death, a custom called zuo qi<\/em> (\u505a\u4e03, “doing the sevens”). It runs from tou qi<\/em> (\u5934\u4e03), the seventh day after death, to qi qi<\/em> (\u4e03\u4e03), the 49th day: seven rounds in all. Many families then also mark the 100th day, the first anniversary and the “third year”. Practice differs by dialect group, religion and family, so the dates and rites are usually worked out with elders and the monk or Taoist priest leading the rites.<\/p>\n

What is zuo qi, and where does it come from?<\/h2>\n

Zuo qi is a cycle of prayers held every seven days after a death, seven times in all; in folk usage it is also called zuo xun<\/em> (\u505a\u65ec). It carries both a religious meaning and the meaning of filial remembrance, and its roots can be traced to Buddhist teaching and to older Chinese rites.<\/p>\n

The Buddhist 49 days<\/h3>\n

In Buddhist tradition, the 49 days after death are understood as a period of transition. According to Buddhist scriptures, when the family chants sutras and holds prayers during this time, the merit is dedicated to the departed, with the wish that they are reborn in a good realm. Buddhist families therefore hold prayers at each seven-day interval, which is how zuo qi came about.<\/p>\n

Classical rites and folk custom<\/h3>\n

Malaysian writers on folk custom have noted that the 49-day and 100-day observances were added over time through Buddhist and Taoist practice. Classical Confucian rites centred on offerings after the funeral, offerings on the first and fifteenth of each lunar month, and a three-year mourning period. Many families today follow a blend of these traditions, so it is natural that practice differs a little from place to place and family to family.<\/p>\n

What do families usually do on each of the sevens?<\/h2>\n

Generally, tou qi and the 49th day are the most closely observed; the odd-numbered sevens are commonly marked, while many families keep the even-numbered ones simple. The table below summarises common practice for reference.<\/p>\n

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Day<\/th>\nRoughly when<\/th>\nCommon practice<\/th>\n<\/tr>\n<\/thead>\n
Tou qi<\/em> (\u5934\u4e03), the first seven<\/td>\n7th day<\/td>\nOften seen as the most important of the sevens. Prayers and chanting at the home altar; many families traditionally believe the departed returns home this day and prepare a meal as an offering<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Second, fourth and sixth sevens<\/td>\nDays 14, 28, 42<\/td>\nMany families keep these simple, offering incense at the altar<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Third and fifth sevens<\/td>\nDays 21, 35<\/td>\nOdd-numbered sevens tend to be more closely observed; some sources link them to particular family members (see below)<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Qi qi<\/em> (\u4e03\u4e03), the final seven<\/td>\nDay 49<\/td>\nCompletes the sevens; many families invite a monk or priest to chant, and it is usually a larger occasion<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Bai ri<\/em> (\u767e\u65e5), the 100th day<\/td>\nDay 100<\/td>\n100-day prayers; in the past, some families wore mourning dress until this day<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Dui nian<\/em> (\u5bf9\u5e74), first anniversary<\/td>\nAbout 12 months<\/td>\nAnniversary prayers, commonly called dui nian<\/em> by Hokkien families; traditionally the time for he lu<\/em> (\u5408\u7089)<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
“Third year” (\u4e09\u5e74)<\/td>\nAbout 24 months<\/td>\nCalled “three years” in folk usage; traditionally the close of the mourning period<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n

Tou qi: often the most important seven<\/h3>\n

Tou qi opens the cycle. Beyond the home-altar prayers described in the table, records of folk custom from southern Fujian (Minnan) note that some families also visit the grave or a temple to pray on this day.<\/p>\n

Odd and even sevens<\/h3>\n

The odd-numbered sevens are generally more closely observed. One source says daughters traditionally lead the third seven and grandchildren the fifth, but accounts differ between dialect groups, and in some places the “daughters’ seven” falls on another day. For the second, fourth and sixth sevens, many families simply offer incense at the altar, while others hold full prayers.<\/p>\n

Qi qi: completing the sevens<\/h3>\n

The 49th day is the last of the sevens, also called the “final seven” or “full seven”. Many families invite a monk or priest to chant, and it is often a larger occasion. Some families also hold rites such as he lu<\/em> or the end of formal mourning on this day (see below).<\/p>\n

What are the 100th day, dui nian and the “third year”?<\/h2>\n

After the 49th day, many families also hold prayers on the 100th day after death, at the first anniversary and at about two years. These days mark different stages of the mourning period.<\/p>\n

The 100th day<\/h3>\n

Prayers on the 100th day are known as zuo bai ri<\/em> (\u505a\u767e\u65e5). A local folk-custom article recalls that older generations who placed great weight on these rites would prepare twelve cups of tea, twelve cups of wine, meat offerings, kuih and dishes of food; today’s offerings are simpler and vary from family to family. In Penang in the 1950s and 60s, it was common for children to wear mourning dress until the 100th day, removing the mourning cloth at the 100-day prayers as a sign of returning to everyday life.<\/p>\n

Dui nian and he lu<\/h3>\n

Dui nian is the first-anniversary observance, known in classical texts as xiao xiang<\/em> (\u5c0f\u7965) and commonly called dui nian by Hokkien families; in practice it falls at about twelve months. Traditionally this is the time for he lu, when the deceased’s incense is merged into the family’s ancestral incense urn.<\/p>\n

The “third year” and the end of mourning<\/h3>\n

The folk “third year”, known in classical texts as da xiang<\/em> (\u5927\u7965), falls at about 24 months and traditionally marks the close of the mourning period. In ancient times mourning lasted three years; today many families shorten it to one year, 100 days or 49 days, often ending formal mourning on the 49th day, the 100th day or the first anniversary, and some families no longer wear mourning dress at all.<\/p>\n

How are the days counted?<\/h2>\n

Most families count from the day of death, holding prayers every seven days. Some count that day as day one, and others choose dates with guidance, so a difference of a day or two is common. Many families ask the person leading the rites to write the dates down at the time of the funeral.<\/p>\n

How do families arrange the days today?<\/h2>\n

Arrangements today are varied, from observing all seven sevens to gathering once to complete them together. Common adjustments include:<\/p>\n

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  • Choosing which sevens to mark:<\/strong> Buddhist sources describe three common arrangements: only the first and final sevens; the first, third, fifth and seventh; or all seven.<\/li>\n
  • Adjusting the length:<\/strong> each session depends on what is included and may run from an hour or two to half a day or a full day; Buddhist sources note that 30 minutes to an hour of chanting is also acceptable.<\/li>\n
  • Simplifying the form:<\/strong> offering incense and paying respects to the Buddha is acceptable; families may also gather once to complete the observances, finish them within a few days, or join group memorial prayers at a temple.<\/li>\n
  • Changing the place:<\/strong> some families do not set up a temporary altar at home after the funeral, and pray at the grave or columbarium instead.<\/li>\n
  • Timing merit-making rites:<\/strong> in northern Peninsular Malaysia, some families hold merit-making rites (zuo gong de<\/em>, \u505a\u529f\u5fb7) before the funeral, on the 49th day or at the first anniversary; in the south, these are more often held at the first or second anniversary.<\/li>\n
  • Doing good in the person’s name:<\/strong> some families set up a scholarship or support cultural or charitable causes in memory of the departed.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Some families also bring forward he lu and the end of formal mourning to the 49th or 100th day. Practice differs from place to place and family to family, and each family can settle on the arrangement that suits it.<\/p>\n

    Practical tips: how can families prepare?<\/h2>\n

    With many dates to remember and relatives often living in different towns, a little planning can make things easier. A few steps for reference:<\/p>\n

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    1. Note the dates at the funeral.<\/strong> Ask the person leading the rites or the funeral staff to write down tou qi, the 49th day, the 100th day and dui nian.<\/li>\n
    2. Share them in the family chat group.<\/strong> Children living elsewhere can then apply for leave and plan their trips home early.<\/li>\n
    3. Agree on which days to mark together.<\/strong> The family can discuss which sevens will be larger occasions and which will be a simple offering of incense.<\/li>\n
    4. Remember the first-year birthday and death anniversary.<\/strong> In the first year, some families also make offerings on the late person’s birthday (sheng ji<\/em>, \u751f\u5fcc) and on the death anniversary (si ji<\/em>, \u6b7b\u5fcc).<\/li>\n
    5. Ask when unsure.<\/strong> Elders in the family, your temple or religious group, or the funeral staff serving you can help.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      In summary: a rhythm for remembering<\/h2>\n

      Zuo qi, the 100th day, dui nian and the “third year” give a family time to move through grief step by step. How the days are counted, how many sevens are marked and where the prayers are held all differ by dialect group, religion and family; there is no single version.<\/p>\n

      FLS (\u798f\u7984\u5bff) Kuantan has walked alongside Kuantan families through many of these days since 1963. We often tell families that rituals give remembrance a place to rest, and arranging them in a way the family can manage carries the same care.<\/p>\n

      This article is from the FLS (\u798f\u7984\u5bff) Kuantan Life Education Column. Questions about the mourning days are welcome on WhatsApp at +60 12-960 2222. More at flsgroup.com.my<\/em><\/p>\n

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      Quick answers<\/h2>\n
      \nWhat is zuo qi, and how many days does it last?<\/summary>\n

      Zuo qi (\u505a\u4e03) is the custom, followed by many Chinese families, of holding prayers every seven days after a death, from tou qi on the 7th day to qi qi on the 49th day: seven rounds in all. It draws on the Buddhist idea of a 49-day transition. Many Chinese families in Malaysia, including in Kuantan, observe it, and practice varies by dialect group and family.<\/p>\n<\/details>\n

      \nWhen is tou qi, and what do families usually do?<\/summary>\n

      Tou qi (\u5934\u4e03) is usually the seventh day after death and is often seen as the most important of the sevens. Families commonly pray and chant at the home altar, and many traditionally believe the departed returns home that day, so a meal is prepared as an offering. Counting methods differ, so many families ask the person leading the rites to note the dates.<\/p>\n<\/details>\n

      \nWhat is the difference between the 100th day and dui nian?<\/summary>\n

      The 100th day (\u767e\u65e5, bai ri) is a prayer held 100 days after death; in the past, some families wore mourning dress until then. Dui nian (\u5bf9\u5e74) is the first-anniversary observance, a term commonly used by Hokkien families, and traditionally the time when the deceased’s incense is merged into the ancestral incense urn. Some families also mark a “third year” at about 24 months.<\/p>\n<\/details>\n

      \nCan the mourning days be simplified?<\/summary>\n

      Yes. Many families today adapt the observances to their circumstances. Buddhist organisations have said the 49-day observances can be kept simple, such as offering incense and paying respects, or gathering the family to complete them at one time. Families in Kuantan often discuss the arrangements with elders and their funeral service provider and choose what suits them.<\/p>\n<\/details>\n<\/section>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n